The top struggle I hear from moms

The biggest struggle I hear from moms (and I struggled with too!) is WHEN to find time for self-care.

I have to defer to one of my role models, Rachel Hollis, on this one. In one of her talks (about building a business, raising kids, and finding time for ME time) she mentions that having kids under 2 sort of exempts you from attempting this nearly impossible feat.

So, if you’re like me with an almost 2 year old and one on the way, give yourself a little credit for making any me time work even if it’s not consistent. We all know what it’s like to have that never ending to-do list and keep putting ourselves at the bottom.

Want to know my FAVORITE way to practice self-care that costs me almost nothing? …. a super long shower. Sometimes I do feel bad that the minute my husband walks in the door and I’m all, “Bye, Felicia!” but it’s the only way I stay sane. (And don’t we all show up better when we’re sane…)

Sometimes I don’t even get my hair washed or my legs shaved. I’m just standing there staring at the wall enjoying silence. Does that make me sound a little crazy? Maybe. But if you have a toddler you feel me.

It took a while to get to this point and riiiiight when I started to figure out a rhythm for some other self-care acts to work into my schedule baby number two decided it was time to come. Right now, I’m working on reminding myself that this time is fleeting and that I’ll be able to get into a routine again a few months down the road (fingers crossed!).

Here are my top tips for making it work for your family:

1) Don’t underestimate the power of a 15-minute reset. A long shower. A walk around the neighborhood. Sitting in the car outside the grocery store. That time can be really restorative.

2) Lean on your team! Learn how to let go of the ‘guilt’ of leaving your kids in someone else’s supervision while you take care of yourself!

3) Find out what time of day is your most energetic. When you figure out what time that is- commit to get big stuff done. This way more of your to do list has been handled and you can engage in self-care without feeling like you should be doing something else.

4) Keep a list on your phone. Want to read an article? Dying to listen to that podcast episode but can’t hear it over “Baby Shark” playing over and over? Keep a list of what you want to do and when you get that precious extra-long nap time unexpectedly you don’t squander it trying to figure out “what should I be doing …?”

The sooner we all commit to taking care of ourselves too the sooner we’ll see our lives, moods, and relationships change for the better!